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3 Ways to Up Your Game in the New Year

Happy New Year from my family to yours! I hope you all had a fabulous holiday and New Year’s Eve. As we strut into January with a tight hold on our New Year’s resolutions we may already have feelings of overwhelm and defeat. Yep, even on the 2nd day!  In my opinion, it’s not about hitting a weight goal, getting that promotion or looking like a “10” every time I leave the house. It’s about continuous growth in all ways possible to live a better, happier and more satisfying life. I’m not as far as I’d like to be, but I’ve come a long way, babes!

Happy New Year from my family to yours! Rayne Parvis, Goldie, Alley, Frida and Matt Parvis in Studio City, Ca.

Here are 3 easy way to be a “better you” by upping your game in 2018:

  1. Add a New Tool to Your Lifestyle: Write down 5 things you can learn that will make your life more stylish, fulfilling or a tad more awesome. What skill have you always wanted to have but have been scared to take the plunge? Pick at least one and do it! Sign up and pay for the training today. If you pay for it now, you will find time to make it happen. This may be taking a photography class at a local junior college, getting certified for that side hustle you’ve been thinking about or taking a sewing class so you can tailor your own clothes. Whatever your soul has been yearning for dive in. In December, I took a personal styling business class at School of Style. I’m already a certified Style Coach but the more I know about my craft the more I can give back to my clients and those around me. It’s always scary to invest a big chunk of change. My thoughts were what if I already know everything? What if it’s a waste of money? Blah, blah, blah. I was so inspired by learning new ways of doing business and services I’ve completely revamped my structure for Style By Rayne. Yay! 

    Rayne Parvis’ School of Style certification.
  2. Let Go of Whatever is Not Inspiring You: Before you can operate at your best, letting go of ill-fitting clothes, self-doubt, relationships you’re holding onto that no longer serve you or your universal purpose and whatever may be hanging out in your house…junk drawers, second bedroom that is filled with years of “maybe I’ll need that one day items” and/or storage units you’ve been paying monthly for that you haven’t been to in a decade. The less you are carrying into your future the more room you’ll have for new fabulousness. Whatever you need to do to get this done…do it darling! Take a look at a recent before and after a closet audit. Creating space is one of the keys to less stress for your mind. 

    Closet before and after with Rayne Parvis in Culver City, Ca.
  3. Hire Someone to Help You Be a Better You: When we try to save money and do everything ourselves we get less done. Admittedly, I am a total repeat offender in this category. I’m hiring a PR consultant to help me with PR…duh. Yes, I can sit there hour after hour, learning about this craft, read books on how to do it myself and spend endless hours researching who, what, when and where I should submit to. However, I don’t wanna! I’ve tried. I’d rather be shopping, volunteering or working on my business which I enjoy doing. What has taken me hours and hours to do, my PR expert knows the remedy and the future success recipe instantly. Another example, for my styling clients, I can take one look at a photo and know in under 3 seconds how we can improve their overall appearance. So, yes, hire that experienced expert to get you on your personal success track. Experts to consider; personal stylists(for real!), personal trainers, matchmakers, professional photographers for your business, branding agencies, nutritionist, professional organizers, dating coaches, interior designers and business coaches. Did I miss one? Leave in the comments below. 

May you all prosper and be a better you in 2018 and beyond. Check out my latest style expert spot, DATING, STYLE AND SEX RESOLUTIONS: EMPOWERING AIMS FOR 2018, on my dear friend and client’s award-winning podcast Girl Boner. No, it’s not as perverse as it may sound. It’s all about women empowerment in the bedroom and beyond. Woo-hoo! 

Rayne Parvis, August McLaughlin and Erin Tillman at Global Voice Broadcasting recording an episode of Girl Boner.

 

Bonus: Read You Are A Bad Ass and You Are A Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero. She knows how to tell it like it is and get your badassery flowing. You all know I love self-help books to get you moving!

 

Should You Take a Break From Social Media?

One of the things I believe in is having a healthy mind, body, and style. If an element is missing it can increase your anxiety throughout the day. For me, my Instagram was causing me a lot of stress. After doing research, I realized I wasn’t the only one. According to many google searches and studies social media can be used for good as well as cause feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness and fear of missing out. Keep reading to find out if a break will do you some good. 

Before I go over the signs I wanted to give you a little backstory. Last year I took Hilary Rushford’s Instagram with Intention class(because my IG didn’t reflect my stylish skills). However, I became addicted to my new skill set of “Instagramming with Intention”. Like the studies suggested, I was experiencing social media overload with all the feelings mentioned above. I decided to take a 30-day social media break. At first, it wasn’t easy but I did it! 

If you have any of these signs it may be time to rethink your social media views:

  1. It’s the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing you think about before bedtime. In addition, you check your account many MANY times per day. 
  2. You think in #hashtags. 
  3. When you arrive at a destination, you take multiple photos of where you are to make sure you get a great one you can post…at any costs. 
  4. You feel the need to post every day. If you don’t, you feel like you’re missing out, not being productive and everyone else is “working/having fun/doing cool stuff” and you’re not. 
  5. Social media is considered to be your extra-curricular activity over your previous hobbies. You may have family members ask you “on the phone again?”. 
  6. You’re late to work, parties, work out less or procrastinate your to-do lists because you’re posting, liking and commenting. 
  7. If you don’t get a certain number of likes on a post…you feel like a loser. Then go like other people’s photos till you hit your number to feel better about yourself. This is the worst! We are more than our social media. 

If you have any of these symptoms please consider taking a break too! We will all be here when you come back. During my 30 day detox, I felt entirely free. I didn’t have to worry about getting stylish photos, looking perfect and or what everyone else was up to. I focused on those around me, God and doing other things I have enjoyed doing. 

When I came back I was nervous I would slip back into my anxious routine. It takes about 21-30 days to break a habit and I think I’ve broken it. I post less and don’t feel bad about it. My loved ones are grateful I don’t bombard them, as much ;), to take photos for social media. In addition, I feel better all around! Please note, everyone is different. Some can healthily use social media and many need help. If this is you, take a break! 

For more information and discussion about my social media break check out my interview on Dr. Jane Greer’s Shrink Wrap radio show. 

PS. Be sure to remove temptations. Remove your apps from your phone and clear your history on your computer. Out of sight out of mind. For the first few days, you may find yourself filling the void with online shopping or checking gossip sites like TMZ. This is normal. Your phone has to be only used for necessary reasons. Don’t use it as a time filler. If you’re bored take a walk, read a book or get to those projects you’ll be procrastinating on. 

Let me know what you’ve accomplished and how you feel. My dear friend said she felt amazing and cleaned-out a back room that was a disaster for the past 7 years. We both also hung pictures we had on our floors for years too! What will do on your break? I want to know. 

3 Ways to Shake Up Your Workouts Without Breaking the Bank

“They” say once you hit the age of 35 it’s all down hill from there. I’m writing this email with 7 extra pounds on a “beautiful me”. Thank you 35! If you have been allowing those extra pounds to creep up year after year it’s imperative for our health we lose the weight and or maintain a healthy one. Yes, our bodies are not meant to have the same exact shape as we did in our 20’s but we can maintain as we gracefully age to decrease our risk for diabetes, heart disease, and the emotional stress of gaining weight.  

BODY MASS INDEX:

 

According to Livestrong.com ” No matter what your age, you’ll need to eat fewer calories than you burn to lose weight. However, since your metabolism generally slows down as you get older, your calorie needs change as you age, and the calorie intake that prompted weight loss accordingly might not work after age 35.”. 

Well for me this is the slowing of the metabolism is the culprit. I religiously continued to work out 5-6 days a week. My exercises included a walk with my husband, yoga video, weight lifting class at the gym or a 45 minute sitting on the recumbent bike. Needless to say, never really pushing myself and doing whatever I felt like doing. 

Whatever, current state you’re in, getting inspired to maintain or transform into a healthy body is key to making a change. If you have the leisure of having a personal trainer come to your home, a private chef to cook for you or a delivery service ship meals to you then good for you! If you’re on a budget I got you too! 

Here are 3 ways to shake up your workout without breaking the bank:

  1. Buy New Workout Clothes: Ross Dress For Less, Target and Nordstrom Rack have an assortment of stylish goodies for cheap. If you look cute, you’re going to want to work out more. Trust me! A ratty t-shirt and old sweatpants are not going to do the trick. If you need a list of what to buy, read Chapter 9 in my book Ultimate Guide to Style: From Drab to Fab!. 
  2. Read About Others Conquering Their Weight Loss Goals: When you are aware of other people’s stories, paths, and accomplishments you’re more likely to do it yourself. If they can do it so can you! Check out my dear friend’s, Jeanette Ortega’s new fitness book; The Little Black Book of Fitness. It’s filled with heart-filled stories of incredible fab and fitness journeys. I went to the book signing and was tearing up like a little baby! The author’s experiences are so inspiring. You will get ideas of new ways to improve you! 

    The author of Little Black Book of Fitness, Jeanette Ortega and stylist Rayne Parvis in Pasadena, CA.
  3. Join an Online Personal Fitness Program: I have been participating in SajeCoxFitness.com monthly challenges for the last two months. You get to know a plethora of other ladies on this journey who hold you accountable. Saje’s fresh videos are posted 5 times a week. It’s like having a personal trainer in your home for less than a dollar a day. Did I mention how sweet and down-to-earth she is? Please check out http://www.SajeCoxFitness.com for details. She says, “These workouts are for EVERYONE: ladies who have never exercised, ladies who don’t go to the gym, ladies who go to the gym but want an extra push- literally ALL women can benefit from these.” If you join, let me know I’ll be one of your accountability partners. PS. For the first time in my life, I have arm definition! 

Additionally, grab a walking buddy, join a Meetup.com hiking group, support group and download free healthy recipes from the internet to mix it up. If you implement these tips you will be happier and healthier. 

NOTE: I am not receiving any financial compensation from mentioning any company in this blog post. I have bought new gym clothes, my girl’s fitness book and am participating in the online fitness program. Before starting any program please consult your doctor first! 

Let me know what inspires you to bump-up your routine! My progress has been slow and steady. I’ve lost 3 pounds and am gaining muscle definition. Woo-hoo!!!  Understand, I don’t think I am “fat” nor do I obsess about weight or numbers. However, 7 pounds is 7 pounds and my pants and bras were getting really tight. I didn’t want 7 to turn into 107. As long as you’re healthy and happy then you are good!  

Rayne Parvis is Northridge, CA in Sunsets Separates swimsuit and fedora by Target.

 

 

 

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