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Should You Take a Break From Social Media?

One of the things I believe in is having a healthy mind, body, and style. If an element is missing it can increase your anxiety throughout the day. For me, my Instagram was causing me a lot of stress. After doing research, I realized I wasn’t the only one. According to many google searches and studies social media can be used for good as well as cause feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness and fear of missing out. Keep reading to find out if a break will do you some good. 

Before I go over the signs I wanted to give you a little backstory. Last year I took Hilary Rushford’s Instagram with Intention class(because my IG didn’t reflect my stylish skills). However, I became addicted to my new skill set of “Instagramming with Intention”. Like the studies suggested, I was experiencing social media overload with all the feelings mentioned above. I decided to take a 30-day social media break. At first, it wasn’t easy but I did it! 

If you have any of these signs it may be time to rethink your social media views:

  1. It’s the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing you think about before bedtime. In addition, you check your account many MANY times per day. 
  2. You think in #hashtags. 
  3. When you arrive at a destination, you take multiple photos of where you are to make sure you get a great one you can post…at any costs. 
  4. You feel the need to post every day. If you don’t, you feel like you’re missing out, not being productive and everyone else is “working/having fun/doing cool stuff” and you’re not. 
  5. Social media is considered to be your extra-curricular activity over your previous hobbies. You may have family members ask you “on the phone again?”. 
  6. You’re late to work, parties, work out less or procrastinate your to-do lists because you’re posting, liking and commenting. 
  7. If you don’t get a certain number of likes on a post…you feel like a loser. Then go like other people’s photos till you hit your number to feel better about yourself. This is the worst! We are more than our social media. 

If you have any of these symptoms please consider taking a break too! We will all be here when you come back. During my 30 day detox, I felt entirely free. I didn’t have to worry about getting stylish photos, looking perfect and or what everyone else was up to. I focused on those around me, God and doing other things I have enjoyed doing. 

When I came back I was nervous I would slip back into my anxious routine. It takes about 21-30 days to break a habit and I think I’ve broken it. I post less and don’t feel bad about it. My loved ones are grateful I don’t bombard them, as much ;), to take photos for social media. In addition, I feel better all around! Please note, everyone is different. Some can healthily use social media and many need help. If this is you, take a break! 

For more information and discussion about my social media break check out my interview on Dr. Jane Greer’s Shrink Wrap radio show. 

PS. Be sure to remove temptations. Remove your apps from your phone and clear your history on your computer. Out of sight out of mind. For the first few days, you may find yourself filling the void with online shopping or checking gossip sites like TMZ. This is normal. Your phone has to be only used for necessary reasons. Don’t use it as a time filler. If you’re bored take a walk, read a book or get to those projects you’ll be procrastinating on. 

Let me know what you’ve accomplished and how you feel. My dear friend said she felt amazing and cleaned-out a back room that was a disaster for the past 7 years. We both also hung pictures we had on our floors for years too! What will do on your break? I want to know. 

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7 Ways to Shop & Help Save Animals

If you know me, you know I’m a big animal lover, volunteer, and rescuer. I’ve always gone through phases. Some weeks I’m able to physically donate my time and other weeks I’m too busy. If this is you I get it! However, you don’t have to physically volunteer, adopt or donate millions of dollars to give back to the world. By shopping these brands you are making a difference from the comfort of your home…and shopping at the same time. Woo-hoo! Anyone can get involved anytime anywhere. Animal-friendly styles and companies have come a long way and offer something for everyone including gifts, fashion finds and everyday purchases. I hope you love my choices! 

7 ANIMAL- FRIENDLY FASHION FINDS

1. FETCH EYEWEARThey help you pick sunglasses, prescription and reading glasses according to your face shape, skin tone, hair and eye color. I’m a big fan of shopping this way. Starting at $95 for sunglasses and $125 for prescription glasses(what a deal!) you can try from the comfort of your own home. 100% of the net proceeds from each purchase to support a pet in need. 2. ARM THE ANIMALSA clothing line that is a combination of punk rock, pop culture, humor, street art and has an “in your face”/“take a strong stand” activist vibe. Starting at $7.50 for pet bandanas and tanks at $12.99 you can join the Arm the Animals revolution. Your purchases will provide donations to over 100 different animal welfare organizations.  3.“GIVE LOVE” CHARM by CHAMILIA: A gift for all ages that will last a lifetime because it’s sterling silver. A portion of proceeds go to the Humane Society International, helping all animals all over the world.                4. SHOP FROM ONLINE ETHICAL BOUTIQUE BEAD AND REELAll items are sweatshop, animal, and cruelty-free. BAGS are 100% vegan and come from ethical companies and artisans who hand make the bags and give back to animal and human welfare charities. I got a bag made out of cork from here!                                               

5. VEGAN SHOES FROM BC FOOTWEAR (Born In California)Stylish vegan boots comes in styles for the conscious fashionista in mind. The best part their offices are in LA. Starting at $60 for flats and $95.00 for boots. I have the mules and mod 60’s ankle booties. 

6. BOBS FOR DOGS FROM SKETCHERSBOBS for Dogs has partnered with Best Friends Animal Society®, a no-kill organization dedicated to these animals…putting on Strut Your Mutt event happening Oct 21 at Exposition Park in LA.  They donate millions to save the lives of dogs and cats in America’s shelters.

7. AMAZON SMILE PROGRAM:  You can give back at no extra cost to you! Amazon will donate a portion of all your purchases to your favorite charitable organization through the Amazon Smile Program. You can choose from nearly one million organizations to support. 

Check out more info on my KCAL 9 SPOT I did last week to help support the Strut Your Mutt event and our animal-friendly fashion finds. My hope is to inspire us all to do our part when we can. Happy shopping!

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Is Your Ex’s Sentimental Pieces Hindering You From Moving Forward?

Some relationships end – with lovers, with loved ones, with dreams and with cities. If you’ve wished to unburden the emotional load by erasing everything that reminds you of that painful experience by throwing it all away – don’t. Donate it to the Museum of Broken Relationships – Museum on Broken Relationships 

Does this story sound familiar? My girlfriend recently broke up with her boyfriend. He initially stated that he was ready to give love another chance after having his heart broken. The ex used to live with him. My friend asked her new man if he still had any of his ex’s stuff in the house. He said, “no way!”. She said that the ex-girlfriend’s energy was so strong in the house that she just couldn’t stop thinking about her and contemplated whether or not he was seriously ready to move on. After an argument, he admitted he had a box of his ex-girlfriend’s stuff in the garage. My friend was more hurt by the lie than the act of him keeping the items. She also said that her strong feelings of the ex’s aura made sense. She ended up breaking off the relationship with him. Not just over the ex but over a combination of other reasons. However, his lie and reluctance to let go of the ex’s items confirmed, to her, he wasn’t ready for a new love.

I’m a firm believer of items holding energy, like my girlfriend. I say give those negative item/items a new home, get it the f*ck out & make space for a better tomorrow.  I recommend re-examining why you are still keeping this sentimental piece/pieces and if you are prepared to let go. If you’re not, I let my clients keep one, stressing on one, small box for those keepsake items. However, keeping an ex’s stuff that brings up a painful experience is different than holding on to your child’s first pair of shoes.

Do you have a chest, box, corner in your closet of items that reminds you of when “so and so” broke your heart too? Why not donate the items to the Museum of Broken Relationships? 

Rayne Parvis with bras someone’s ex’s bras from Museum on Broken Relationships that were submitted.

The Museum of Broken Relationships is a physical and virtual public space created with the sole purpose of treasuring and sharing your heartbreak stories and symbolic possessions. It is a museum about you, about us, about the ways we love and lose.I had the pleasure of meeting the fab director Alexis Hyde, getting a private tour and got to give my 2 cents of one of the most popular pieces (breast implants) for August Mclaughlin’s award winning blog and podcast, Girl Boner with my other longtime pal Erin Tillman of The Dating Advice Girl and writer Karina Wilson. Please check out her post with my two cents here; 

OBJECTS FROM BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS: TO KEEP OR NOT TO KEEP? + THE STORIES THEY TELL.

Karina Wilson, August McLaughlin, Erin Tillman and Rayne Parvis at Museum of Broken Relationships in Hollywood, CA.

Ps. I’m donating a piece that I can’t wait to get rid of from an ex-pal who broke my heart.  I hope this post inspires you to let something go that is no longer serving a purpose for you. What item are you holding onto? 

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