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Is Your Ex’s Sentimental Pieces Hindering You From Moving Forward?

Some relationships end – with lovers, with loved ones, with dreams and with cities. If you’ve wished to unburden the emotional load by erasing everything that reminds you of that painful experience by throwing it all away – don’t. Donate it to the Museum of Broken Relationships – Museum on Broken Relationships 

Does this story sound familiar? My girlfriend recently broke up with her boyfriend. He initially stated that he was ready to give love another chance after having his heart broken. The ex used to live with him. My friend asked her new man if he still had any of his ex’s stuff in the house. He said, “no way!”. She said that the ex-girlfriend’s energy was so strong in the house that she just couldn’t stop thinking about her and contemplated whether or not he was seriously ready to move on. After an argument, he admitted he had a box of his ex-girlfriend’s stuff in the garage. My friend was more hurt by the lie than the act of him keeping the items. She also said that her strong feelings of the ex’s aura made sense. She ended up breaking off the relationship with him. Not just over the ex but over a combination of other reasons. However, his lie and reluctance to let go of the ex’s items confirmed, to her, he wasn’t ready for a new love.

I’m a firm believer of items holding energy, like my girlfriend. I say give those negative item/items a new home, get it the f*ck out & make space for a better tomorrow.  I recommend re-examining why you are still keeping this sentimental piece/pieces and if you are prepared to let go. If you’re not, I let my clients keep one, stressing on one, small box for those keepsake items. However, keeping an ex’s stuff that brings up a painful experience is different than holding on to your child’s first pair of shoes.

Do you have a chest, box, corner in your closet of items that reminds you of when “so and so” broke your heart too? Why not donate the items to the Museum of Broken Relationships? 

Rayne Parvis with bras someone’s ex’s bras from Museum on Broken Relationships that were submitted.

The Museum of Broken Relationships is a physical and virtual public space created with the sole purpose of treasuring and sharing your heartbreak stories and symbolic possessions. It is a museum about you, about us, about the ways we love and lose.I had the pleasure of meeting the fab director Alexis Hyde, getting a private tour and got to give my 2 cents of one of the most popular pieces (breast implants) for August Mclaughlin’s award winning blog and podcast, Girl Boner with my other longtime pal Erin Tillman of The Dating Advice Girl and writer Karina Wilson. Please check out her post with my two cents here; 

OBJECTS FROM BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS: TO KEEP OR NOT TO KEEP? + THE STORIES THEY TELL.

Karina Wilson, August McLaughlin, Erin Tillman and Rayne Parvis at Museum of Broken Relationships in Hollywood, CA.

Ps. I’m donating a piece that I can’t wait to get rid of from an ex-pal who broke my heart.  I hope this post inspires you to let something go that is no longer serving a purpose for you. What item are you holding onto? 

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3 Ways to Shake Up Your Workouts Without Breaking the Bank

“They” say once you hit the age of 35 it’s all down hill from there. I’m writing this email with 7 extra pounds on a “beautiful me”. Thank you 35! If you have been allowing those extra pounds to creep up year after year it’s imperative for our health we lose the weight and or maintain a healthy one. Yes, our bodies are not meant to have the same exact shape as we did in our 20’s but we can maintain as we gracefully age to decrease our risk for diabetes, heart disease, and the emotional stress of gaining weight.  

BODY MASS INDEX:

 

According to Livestrong.com ” No matter what your age, you’ll need to eat fewer calories than you burn to lose weight. However, since your metabolism generally slows down as you get older, your calorie needs change as you age, and the calorie intake that prompted weight loss accordingly might not work after age 35.”. 

Well for me this is the slowing of the metabolism is the culprit. I religiously continued to work out 5-6 days a week. My exercises included a walk with my husband, yoga video, weight lifting class at the gym or a 45 minute sitting on the recumbent bike. Needless to say, never really pushing myself and doing whatever I felt like doing. 

Whatever, current state you’re in, getting inspired to maintain or transform into a healthy body is key to making a change. If you have the leisure of having a personal trainer come to your home, a private chef to cook for you or a delivery service ship meals to you then good for you! If you’re on a budget I got you too! 

Here are 3 ways to shake up your workout without breaking the bank:

  1. Buy New Workout Clothes: Ross Dress For Less, Target and Nordstrom Rack have an assortment of stylish goodies for cheap. If you look cute, you’re going to want to work out more. Trust me! A ratty t-shirt and old sweatpants are not going to do the trick. If you need a list of what to buy, read Chapter 9 in my book Ultimate Guide to Style: From Drab to Fab!. 
  2. Read About Others Conquering Their Weight Loss Goals: When you are aware of other people’s stories, paths, and accomplishments you’re more likely to do it yourself. If they can do it so can you! Check out my dear friend’s, Jeanette Ortega’s new fitness book; The Little Black Book of Fitness. It’s filled with heart-filled stories of incredible fab and fitness journeys. I went to the book signing and was tearing up like a little baby! The author’s experiences are so inspiring. You will get ideas of new ways to improve you! 

    The author of Little Black Book of Fitness, Jeanette Ortega and stylist Rayne Parvis in Pasadena, CA.
  3. Join an Online Personal Fitness Program: I have been participating in SajeCoxFitness.com monthly challenges for the last two months. You get to know a plethora of other ladies on this journey who hold you accountable. Saje’s fresh videos are posted 5 times a week. It’s like having a personal trainer in your home for less than a dollar a day. Did I mention how sweet and down-to-earth she is? Please check out http://www.SajeCoxFitness.com for details. She says, “These workouts are for EVERYONE: ladies who have never exercised, ladies who don’t go to the gym, ladies who go to the gym but want an extra push- literally ALL women can benefit from these.” If you join, let me know I’ll be one of your accountability partners. PS. For the first time in my life, I have arm definition! 

Additionally, grab a walking buddy, join a Meetup.com hiking group, support group and download free healthy recipes from the internet to mix it up. If you implement these tips you will be happier and healthier. 

NOTE: I am not receiving any financial compensation from mentioning any company in this blog post. I have bought new gym clothes, my girl’s fitness book and am participating in the online fitness program. Before starting any program please consult your doctor first! 

Let me know what inspires you to bump-up your routine! My progress has been slow and steady. I’ve lost 3 pounds and am gaining muscle definition. Woo-hoo!!!  Understand, I don’t think I am “fat” nor do I obsess about weight or numbers. However, 7 pounds is 7 pounds and my pants and bras were getting really tight. I didn’t want 7 to turn into 107. As long as you’re healthy and happy then you are good!  

Rayne Parvis is Northridge, CA in Sunsets Separates swimsuit and fedora by Target.

 

 

 

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Is Renting My Wardrobe Worth It?

We’ve all been there. We spend a couple hundred dollars, or thousands, on a dress we love. We wear it to a wedding, get a bunch of pictures taken and then, it hangs in our closet. And every time we see it, we cringe because we know we should wear the piece more…but we don’t want to. Our inner soul wants something new and fresh…that hasn’t been posted on social media yet. Sad, but true.  We also all have had the experience of buying an item, wearing it 3 or 4 times and then, we’re over it. Isn’t it awesome being a women?!

RTR
Rent The Runway in the Topanga Mall in Woodland Hills, CA.

Rent The Runway and the like is the answer to your special occasions, work wear and everyday lifestyle finds. Wardrobe Rental places like Rent The Runway(men and women), Gwynnie Bee and Le Tote are increasingly getting more popular. What is it? They are companies that rent out clothes for special occasions and/or everyday lifestyle wear. It’s like the chic and cool sister to Men’s Wearhouse.

I recently had the privilege of styling my dear friend, Harmony Grillo, of the non-profit http://www.IAmTreasure.com, for her annual Gala. Rent The Runway was the perfect place for her. She looked stunning in designer couture! Retail, her dress, jewelry would of been over $1000.00. The rental value was under $100.00. Yes, it’s true! The Halston dress she wore had a rental price of $30.00!  Thank you Rent The Runway!

Rayne and Harmony at RTR
Stylist Rayne Parvis and Harmony Dust-Grillo at Rent The Runway.

What a value! To answer my question, yes, it’s worth it to rent your wardrobe. Please check out Rent The Runway and online companies like Le Tote and Gwynnie Bee(plus size). All three companies offer everyday style finds for work, play and vacations. It’s finally possible to have a designer closet without the hefty price tag. If you’ve been renting from a service like this, please let us know your thoughts.

Harmony Grillo
Harmony Dust-Grillo in Halston dress, Christian Dior earrings and bracelet from Rent The Runway. Picture taken at Westin Pasedena for Treasures annual Gala. Style by Rayne Parvis.

Shout out to Katie at Rent The Runway in Woodland Hills, CA. for your excellence service!

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